“Someone I know has died”. Is this you? Have you come here because of the death of a parent, a grandparent or a friend? Perhaps you have lost a brother or a sister? You might have lost a pet. Whatever your loss, we will try and help you to cope with your grief here.
Betty is now 75 years old, and she has been helping people cope with death and grief since she was 16 years old when she left home to become a nurse. She has written some words to try and help you understand what you are going through.
If you have come to this site because you have lost a loved one then I give you my deepest sympathy. You may be looking for support but are finding it difficult to ask. You may have had a close relative or pet who has died.
This may be your first experience of loss of a loved one and it is a painful experience for anyone. The shock, anxiety, tears, anger, all the spectrum of emotions will affect you. It is all part of the grieving process.
Within all our daily lives we can be happy, sad, angry, excited, - all of these are normal emotions. These are much more noticeable during the grief process. You will also be having heightened emotions as your body is going through the changes into adulthood. Hormonal changes can also cause tears and angry outbursts at any time. You are going through a difficult time in your life with the added burden of grief.
When we confront loss of a loved one for the first time in our lives, it can ruin our confidence. It reminds us of our own mortality, it brings up all sorts of queries about life itself and the universe.
You need to find someone you trust who you can talk to. It is important to release pent up worries and get support. It may be a friend, relative, teacher or work mate.
Teenage years are busy with study, exams, sport, perhaps a part time job, a boyfriend or girlfriend. So much to do. So coping with grief on top of the demands of being a teenager is really too much. Give yourself some time to yourself to cry over your loss. Boys are allowed to cry too. A good cry can make you feel better.
Then keep busy with your normal routines as much as possible. It takes your mind off your grief for a while.
Don't be surprised if friends avoid you, as often they are embarrassed and don't know what to say to you. They may never have experienced a close family member’s death or lost a good friend. When you are ready, let them know you are OK and that you would like to see them again. Don’t lose your friends over it, if they haven’t experienced it, they won’t know what to do.
If people ask how you are, say "Fine" then you begin to believe it yourself. Try to keep your problems for your close friend and support person or a trusted family member. Talk things over with them.
I have called my site a journey through the pathways of grief. It is sometimes painful, but also full of happy memories of your loved one too. You will get to the stage of accepting what has happened. It will make you stronger to face other difficulties in life. You will be able to understand and help friends when they are sad.
Keep some photos of your loved one, and perhaps some little possession of theirs as a keepsake to remind you them. You might want to do some writing or drawing to help you sort out your feelings about it. Read about writing through your grief, or using art, theatre, or dance to express your feelings.
If you write a poem, we can make a page for you on this website as a memorial to your loved one. You can enter it here: Grief Poems.
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