When do you know when you should seek grief counselling?
A friend of mine lost her son a few months ago. She doesn't seem to be coping very well at all. I tried to get her to see someone, but she says she doesn't want to. Am I right in thinking she needs help?
How can I help my friend who is suffering grief after her husband died?
(Hong Kong )
My friend recently lost her husband, and is very withdrawn and upset. I'd like to be able to help, but really don't know what to do for the best. She doesn't want to go out or do anything. I'm a bit worried about her to be honest.
Is it appropriate to express grief through humour?
My father's funeral was last week, and we all got the giggles and ended up in hysterics. There was one particular aunt who thought it was terrible and that we were being really disrespectful. I thought my Dad would have enjoyed it, and seen the funny side. But I do feel a bit bad about upsetting my aunt.
How do other people cope with their grief?
(Colchester, Essex, UK)
I would appreciate some ideas about how others are managing to cope with grief.
Anyone Out There Getting Sued ?
Hello And Peace To All,
I moved in with my dear dad three years before his passing at 93. I loved him with all my heart, and was glad to help. He was in a wheel chair for almost 2 years. My 2 elder brothers, and 2 elder sisters had abandoned my father. Until, his stroke, then my sisters would visit him in the board and care facilities. My eldest sister , "Z." made our lives miserable.
I haven't been friends with these people in 25 years,but 13 weeks after his death Z, and her attorney began demanding documents from me. My attorney and I complied, but nothing satisfied her. Now, she is trying to remove me as Trustee, and the legal bills are huge. I'm getting professional psych support, but Z is telling bold faced lies about me. My attorneys believe that the case will be thrown out once we are in front of the judge. Z is a deeply disturbed woman with nothing better to do. She will eliminate our trust cash reserves out of pure spite. I think this is more painful at this time because of the holidays.
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