Solving Grief Sleep Problems
- how to sleep better and reduce stress
Grief sleep problems are very common after a loss. Our bodies are in shock and we are often suffering from anxiety too.
When you are suffering from insomnia, whether it is because you have had a bereavement or due to another of life's stresses or an illness, it can make life even more challenging. These relaxation techniques will help you to sleep better which will enable you to cope during the day.
One of the most important things to remember is that being awake in the middle of the night is not the end of the world. If you can't sleep, instead of lying there fretting and worrying about it, why not get up and do something. Most of this website was written between the hours of 2am – 4am! If you have a lot of thoughts or ideas going around your head, it can be really helpful to write them all down. Once they are out of your mind and on the paper, you can then settle back to sleep.
Our tips for solving grief sleep problems are:
Make sure your bed is comfortable, and not too hot or too cold. Sleep
in a well ventilated room, and keep your bedroom for sleeping only.
Do some physical exercise during the day. It's easier to sleep if you are physically tired.
Don't watch television or use the computer for an hour or two before going to bed.
Listen to some relaxing music or read a calming book.
Don't eat a large meal in the evening too close to bedtime.
Don't have any caffeine (coffee, cola, chocolate, strong tea) after about lunchtime. Try chamomile tea instead especially before bed.
Lavender bags in the bedroom or lavender oil in a relaxing bath can help.
Try having a glass of milk and a banana before bed, they are good for helping you to sleep.
Have a massage. Or give yourself a massage. Massaging your hands or your feet can be very relaxing.
Don't get anxious about not being able to sleep. If you can't sleep, why not get up and write down your thoughts.
Imagine yourself in a beautiful place, where you are happy. Take your mind to places you love.
Focus on happy memories and things which make you smile.
Do some relaxation or meditation. See our page on meditation for grief here.
Try getting up a little earlier in the morning and forego your midday nap, so that you are more tired when you go to bed.
Some final tips:
If you are still having trouble sleeping, you could try acupuncture which relaxes the body and mind, and consider seeing your doctor to rule out any medical causes.
If your insomnia is caused by grief, loss or a bereavement, have a look at the pages on this site which will help you to cope. Coming to terms with your loss will help to calm your mind and help you to sleep better. Some pages you might find useful are:
Coping with Grief Anxiety
Yoga for Grief
Activities for Socialising and Relaxation
Or have a look at our index of contents.
ARE YOU A BEREAVED MOTHER OR FATHER?
We are two bereaved parents who have teamed up with researchers at Yeshiva University and Memorial Sloan Kettering to study how the death of a child impacts parents’ lives, and the resulting ripple effects as life continues without our children. We invite you to participate in a survey which will help us develop resources to better support parents experiencing the heartbreak of child loss.
For mothers or fathers who have lost a child (or children) of any age, and would like to make a contribution to our understanding of bereaved parenthood, this is a way to make a difference.
If you would like to participate in our study, please fill out this confidential survey at https://yeshiva.co1.qualtrics.com/jfe/form/SV_cUXcBDFIiWAg6Ng It will take about 20 minutes.
For more details, you can contact the Principal Investigator:
Kailey Roberts, PhD, Assistant Professor of Clinical Psychology, Ferkauf Graduate School of Psychology, Yeshiva University.
Thank you for your consideration --
Judith Kottick, LCSW and Jean Singer, PhD
IRB Approved at the Study Level, May 10, 2021. #30499052.0
Have You Considered Online Grief Counseling?
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Do you feel alone and sad with no support and no idea how to move forward? It can be tough when you are stuck in grief to find the motivation to get the most out of your precious life.
Online counseling can help by giving you that support so you don't feel so alone. You can have someone to talk to anytime you like, a kind and understanding person who will help you to find meaning in life again, to treasure the memories of your loved one without being overwhelmed and to enjoy your activities, family and friends again.
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Hypnosis for Grief - 10 Ways It Can Help You
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