If you are in the throes of grief then the headline above probably seems utterly crazy. But just because you are feeling pain and grieving does not mean that you can't have moments of pleasure. To start with, getting out and about and involving yourself in activities will be something that takes an enormous effort, but it is beneficial for you. As Joanne Cacciatore says in her book: "Far from being selfish, in a way, self-care in acute grief is heroic."
So to start with, keeping busy and taking up some activites again is an act of self-care. But before long, you will find that there are moments when you start to feel normal again and when you can experience moments of joy alongside your grief. The two are not mutually exclusive.
So here are some ideas to get you out and about. You can't grieve 24 hours a day and you owe it to yourself to make the most of the precious life that you have left. If you can't do it for yourself, do it in memory of your loved one.
Grief Activities - List of things to do for getting out
and about and filling your life with joy!
Don’t stay at home and be lonely.
Put on a happy face and choose an activity that you love. You will
soon start to feel better. There are many people like you out there
wanting to share a good time too. Dealing with grief is much easier
if you spend time with others and keep busy. Do all the things you always wish you'd tried. Develop a bucket list and work your way through it!
Sports and Fitness
Yoga or pilates (Read here how yoga helped one reader to cope with her grief).
Learn photography or a craft
Amateur dramatics – behind stage, lighting or costumes if you prefer to be behind scenes. You will be welcomed!
Choir - having a good sing releases endorphins and makes you feel much better!
Work out your family tree
Study - go back to university or college
Volunteer work – you have skills and are needed. Go out there and surprise yourself! You will also find that it helps you too.
"We cannot help another without also helping ourselves". Joanne Cacciatore
Charity shop helpers, Repair toys or other donations
Meals on Wheels
Go to schools to hear children read
Car ferrying for nursing homes or disabled
Walk the dogs at the pound
Run a stall to sell crafts for charity
Invite your friends over
Bake a cake or cook a meal
Arrange outings to galleries, museums, parks
Book a holiday with a friend
Go to the movies
Book a restaurant
See a show
Go to a concert or the opera
Make new friends by joining a dinner party group for those who have suffered a loss - like this one.
There are lots of groups which organise trips for single people. Ask your travel agent for one that is best for you.
Or organise your own trip, or get a camper van and meet people on the way.
There are lots more activities to make you feel better.
I wish you all the best on your grief journey.
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