Many people don't realise that it is a form of grieving if you lose your job due to a disability or illness. This page and website will help you to find ways of coping and share advice on how to regain your quality of life.
Losing your health can bring on many of the emotions of grief. It is a deep loss and so is the loss of a job. Both are major life stresses but you have them both together. They are a type of grief that often goes unnoticed by the rest of the world, so you may not get the same support as if a family member died.
There is grief here for the loss of mobility, the loss of job, the loss of colleagues, the loss of health. There is also much stress and anxiety about finances, emotional turmoil, anxiety for the future, wondering how the family will cope.
This grief and loss can be overlooked by others who don't realise you are grieving. It is a traumatic time. Shock, numbness and disbelief can be as great as if a loved one was lost. It is a huge lifestyle change. Read more about coping with shock here.
You may also not get much sympathy if you have an illness that no-one understands or which is 'invisible'. Not everyone who is disabled is in a wheelchair. Illnesses such as chronic fatique, ME, auto-immune diseases and many more, can be incredibly frustrating because to the outside world, you can look fine. It makes it very hard to get financial or even medical support. But don't give up. There are often online groups for many of these conditions where you will get support from others who do understand.
Talk to friends and family about your worries. Support your family members too, as they are very anxious and concerned for you. Often they are hiding their grief to support you. Talk together and grieve together.
The emotions you might be feeling can be similar to those experienced after a bereavement. The coping mechanisms are very similar too. Check out our pages on self-care for ideas to help you.
At first there may be feelings of inadequacy, but you still have many skills and your friends and family still love you.
Do grieve. You have every right. However, you are still the same person inside and have lots to offer.
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