Words for Loss of a Pet - Thе 7 Wоrѕt Thіngѕ tо Sау!

Words to express our sympathy for loss of a pet are hard to find.  But first of all, here's what not to say! Then we'll give you an idea of what you should say. 

You'll also find some great pet sympathy cards with comforting sayings and some links to pet loss quotes.

First of all, we need to understand that for many people pet loss is significant and profound.  Most of us will, at one time or another, be called upon to support an important person in our life as they experience the devastating loss of a pet.  

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1.  It was just a dog (cat, horse, bird, rabbit, gerbil, etc)

There are millions of households in nearly every country who have chosen to own a pet, often as a very important part of their family.  The love that a pet owner shares with this pet is indeed a unique and special part of their life and should never be minimized as "just a " anything.  

Images on this page are available as greetings cards to send to your friends to help them with their loss of a pet. 

Click on the cards to find out more.  

2.  If losing a pet is doing this to you, I would hate to see what you would do if you lost something really important, like child. 

This cannot be a helpful thing to say under any circumstance.  While this attempt at "tough love" may seem like it will shake the loved one out of their misery, don't say it.  Grief is not a competition and one person's sorrow should never be compared to another's.  The emotions of grief are similar whatever the cause of the grief.  

3. At least you won't have the kitty litter, walks, feeding, carpet spots, horse stall, cage etc. to deal with anymore.  

Many times with the loss of a pet, those are just the routines that a pet owner misses the very most.  The daily reminder that those chores are no longer necessary while seemingly freeing to someone from the outside can be a very painful part of the loss of a pet. 

The owner might feel an emptiness and have a lot of time on their hands they don't know how to fill. 


Purchase our cards with moving words for loss of a pet


4. They are in a better place

While a nice thought, in the initial throes of grief, it can also be a very discomforting thought.  To a pet owner the "best place" for their pet is in their home or in their arms.  And not everyone believes in the afterlife.  

A bereaved pet owner may feel that they are letting their pet down by not "being there" any longer for them.  

5.  You can get another pet

Pets are beloved individuals and can never be replaced.  The bereaved pet owner knows they can get another pet so it doesn't have to be stated right away.  Often they will need time to process their loss before they can contemplate bringing another animal into their lives.  Many feel that they would be "unfaithful" to their lost fur baby in finding another so quickly.  

Others, however, do need to fill the space immediately with another pet.  But this suggestion is best left unspoken at the beginning of the grieving period.  



6. You have known this was coming

Even though the pet mummy or daddy may have been dealing with an aging or ill pet for a long period of time, the actual loss is something that really cannot be fully anticipated.  Each pet loss is unique, even for the experienced pet owner who has traveled down the path of grief before.  

While they may be prepared for the process, the finality of the event and the acceptance of facing the days ahead without their familiar animal's presence is something that each pet owner has to deal with in their own way.  

A lovely way to show your sympathy is to buy a piece of pet memorial jewelry with the name of their pet for your friend or relative.  This will show them you care and that you acknowledge the significance of the loss of their pets.

7. It's time to move on

Every person processes their loss at a different pace and the best thing that a friend or loved one can do is wait, be gentle, and be patient.  

Perhaps some lovingly suggested pet loss support groups, online pet loss sites or helpful pet loss books would be a better approach.  

While it can be very hard to know for sure the words to say when a loved one in your life is facing the loss of a beloved pet, here are two simple suggestions

"I love you" and "I am so sorry".  Say them softly and say them often.  

Things to say when someone has lost a pet

  • I'm so sorry for your loss
  • We will all miss Buster (or whatever the pet was called)
  • Talk about your memories of the pet
  • Ask about the pet - people love to share their happy memories
  • Ask if there is anything you can do to help
  • Show you care with a sympathy card or gift. 

Related Pages: 

Buy Pet Sympathy Cards

Buy Pet Sympathy Gifts

Read some Comforting Pet Loss Quotes

How to Write a Pet Sympathy Card

Here are some more pet loss gift ideas from our Zazzle store. 


For USA Residents: 

Please help our colleagues at Yeshiva University, USA by joining in their research study:

ARE YOU A CAREGIVER OR HAVE YOU RECENTLY LOST SOMEONE SIGNIFICANT?

#33769566.1  IRB Approved at the Study Level. 21 July 2022

We are seeking individuals who are caregiving for someone with a life-limiting illness and those who have experienced a significant loss to participate in a research study through Yeshiva University. The purpose of the study is to develop a questionnaire to identify those who may be in need of caregiver or grief support in order to ultimately improve family-centered care in hospitals and clinics.

For caregivers and bereaved individuals who would like to contribute to our understanding of caregiving and bereavement, this is a way to make a difference.

For USA Residents only.  Click here to learn more. 


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