Missing You - A Poem after the Loss of My Dad
by Tina Ridgway
(Roswell, New Mexico )
Fathers day fell just a few weeks after my dad passed away. It was a very hard time in my life. I had also lost my beloved pet of 16 years. My dog Lucy just a few days before Fathers Day. I got my love of animals from my dad. A lot of the traits I like about myself I got from my dad.
My first Fathers Day without a dad
never has a holiday felt so empty and sad.
Just a few weeks ago, I won't forget the day
Mom called the house, told us to hurry
you were about to go away.
It's so hard to lose you
I'm doing a lot of crying.
Living without you
is something I don't feel much like trying.
Some days I just want to bury the pain with sleep
If I don't, I will just sit and think and weep.
I keep myself busy with things that I do
but when I pause, I always think of you.
I think on how you were always so tough
a man's man, gruff and strong
integrity and diligence your whole life long.
Daddy, you by far, were my favorite being on this planet, you encompassed everything I respect, everything I hold dear, your unique perspectives laid waste to my fear.
You were quick with a comeback, your wit is still respected far and wide.
There will be stories that are told and memories shared. Of truths, you spoke few would have dared.
At your memorial, no matter what else people said, the go-to word to describe you that all of them had? The word was "integrity" how proud I was and how proud I am to have the privilege to call you my dad.
Something in me shattered the day we lost you
I find myself not knowing what to say or do
This world seems unfamiliar ground
Without my hero, my star, my daddy around.
It hurts having to adore you from afar
even knowing it is wonderful where you are.
I have faith, eternal is life
I guess it is too soon for this to
comfort grieving children and a wife.
You can love someone with all your might
But you can never love them as much as you miss them when they lose their fight.
Life is a gift, and Dad, you lived yours well
I hope this is the same story my life will tell.
I will be able to see you and tell all of this someday when it is my turn to take the trip you took so very far away.
I miss you, Daddy.
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