This lovely eulogy was shared with us by one of our readers, Lucy. They are the actual words that she read at her mother’s funeral and we can really feel how much they come from the heart. We are so grateful to her for letting us share them here so you can get some help writing your own at this difficult time.
I’d like to say a few words about my Mum, Nancy, dearest sister to Joyce, beloved wife to my Dad, and SuperMum to me and my big brother.
We have always got on well, we never really bickered and rarely had ‘big arguments.’ One or two maybe, but over 47 years that’s not bad going.
As a kid, I did get into trouble a few times, and she would be there at the school gate, talking to the teachers at the little primary school my brother and I attended. Oh oh. I would walk very slowly to the car, head down, and once inside, she would say, “Tell me what happened.” She always took the time to get the full story, and was my biggest and fiercest defender growing up, a lioness of a mother.
Mum never had her own vision of who I should be, instead encouraging me to be my own person. This is definitely advice that I have followed with my own daughters, and I am proud of them for following their own interests and passions. I know Mum was too. I have come to realise, especially since I have these beautiful women-children of my own, that mothers are their daughters' role models, their biological and emotional road maps, and we should cherish those maps and use them to guide our own passage through life.
When I shared the news online with my friends about Mum passing, there was a huge outpouring of support. I wrote that Mum was ‘a brilliant cook, a lover of adventure, resourceful, kind and extremely compassionate to others.’
I was incredibly touched to read one friend’s response.
She told me ‘Lucy, all of those amazing gifts from her live on in you, they are you.’
I took great comfort from that, and I hope I can continue to make her proud of me. She told me often that she was.
I have come to realise over the past few months especially, that “I am my mother’s daughter!” and for that, Nancy, I am truly grateful. Thank you.
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