Why am I feeling this way?

Had a very good friend for 15 years. We were couple friends, my husband really liked her husband and so did I. We traveled the world with them golfed, skied, just really enjoyed life.

His wife's name was Donna and I loved her very much. She came down with cancer and died in 2018. Her husband and everyone else were devastated.
Her husband had a terrible time with his grief. After 2 years he picked up and moved across the country to start a new life. We did not see him for a couple of years but we kept in touch several times during the years.

He called me a week ago and told me he was getting married. I burst out in tears. It made me so sad. I know he has struggled and lost friends and been through so much since her death and he deserves to be happy and I want him to be. But hearing his news made me feel like I was losing Donna all over again. I quickly got off the phone from him and had a mini break down.

I have tried to understand my feelings but I am confused. His identity to me was as Donna's husband. He is not the same person he was before her death and never will be.

Also when he told me he was getting married, he did not say "oh she's a great lady" or "she makes me so happy" or anything like that. He said "I am getting older now and need someone to take care of me."

I asked him if he was sure about this marriage. He said he was not sure about anything anymore. Please help me figure this out.

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