My Complicated Grief

by Darilyn
(Church Hill, TN USA)

I lost my husband of 32 years in August of 2021. The day he died, 2 of our 6 children were called by a woman that stated she had been involved with my husband for the last 2+years. We were all devastated. She even came to the funeral home. She was made to leave. He had not told any of our children or his 2 close friends about her. It was a shock, but proven true. We were having problems, but still no sign of infidelity.

How do I process both griefs? This is overwhelming? Has anyone ever gone through something like this? I can not grieve my husband properly till I get through the grief of betrayal!

Can you help me?

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Jan 20, 2023

Surviving Grief and Infidelity
by: Lesley from GriefandSympathy.com

Hi Darilyn

What an awful shock for you to discover such a betrayal after the loss of your husband.

Sadly, it is not the first time we have heard of such a situation.

We talked about it on this page about Surviving Infidelity.

You will find some useful ideas for how to move on from such a difficult situation. There are many pages on grief on our site and we do hope you find some comfort, both for you and your children.

Lesley

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