Here are some tips and ideas so that you can write words of comfort for sympathy when someone has died. Often finding the right words to express sympathy can be quite hard, especially if you knew the person well, and you are in shock yourself.
The following advice might be of use:
Writing a condolence note depends on the depth of the relationship with the deceased and their families and how long you have known them. The most important thing is to let the bereaved know that someone is thinking about them, to let them realise that they are not alone with their grief.
I only met Jim once but he was so friendly, interesting to talk to and I felt we could have been friends. My family would like you to know our thoughts are with you at this very sad time.
I met Sally several times at school events, she was always very helpful. She introduced me to other parents and made me so welcome as we had just moved to the area. My children and I would like you to know that you are in our thoughts at this very sad time
When the relationship has been long-standing and the death of a good friend then anecdotes of events during the past years are very comforting for the bereaved. Often these letters with reminiscences of the past are read out at the funeral or celebration of the life of the deceased.
When my husband died, I even had a letter from our accountant telling me he’d been his best client. My husband was such a perfectionist that in 15 years of running our business he’d done most of the work himself! He only missed 50p in 15 years! The accountant even told me he designed his workshop around ideas he had received from my husband, whose hobby was woodworking. We’d been retired 12 years when I received that letter and it was a great comfort.
These anecdotes and words are such a comfort to families at this time. People say, I don’t want to upset them. But they are already very sad and grieving, these sympathy messages are part of the healing process.
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