Bereavement Forum -
Your Questions About Grief Answered

This bereavement forum is where you can ask your questions about grief and join in discussions.   I will try and answer as many questions as I can but hope that you will join in the discussions and help each other too.

My 45 years of working in nursing, from midwifery to health visiting to running a nursing home has enabled me to help many people cope with grief.  But I am not a doctor or a psychologist.  So if you are very depressed, please do consult with your own medical practitioner. 

If you have a short comment which you feel might be more appropriate on our Facebook page, you can join in and post comments there too.  The join button is in the right hand column under "Find us here" .

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We only ask that you treat each other with respect.  This grief forum is intended to help those coping with the loss of a loved one, a separation or divorce, the death of a pet, the grief from a job loss,  miscarriage or any other of life's misfortunes. 

Grief is not a competition.  No-one can truly understand what another is going through, so please be understanding.  What might seem trivial to one, may be a major life challenge for another. 

We hope that you will share your knowledge and tips and advice that you have found useful.  It is hoped that this will be a positive, uplifting bereavement forum, where you can come to help and be helped.

We will be checking each question and comment before it goes live on the site.  Any submission which contains anything which might be offensive to any of our readers will not be published.  Also, please have a read through the other questions first, as your question may have already been asked.  If your question is already there, join in the discussion by posting your comments there. 

Any advice on this site should not be a substitute for proper medical care.  If you are at all worried please do consult your own doctor or professional counsellor. 

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Graveside visit.  
Should my teenage son be forced to visit his recently deceased mother's grave ?

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My beautiful daughter is dead and I feel the same 
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Looking for Friendship after Bereavement 
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How do I cope with grief?  
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Losing my father so suddenly is the hardest thing any daughter would have to endure 
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Bereavement and illness feel I have lost everything  
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Guilt is so heavy 
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Coping with multiple traumatic losses  
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Lost my Fiance and Pregnant with Second Child 
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Loss of my husband 
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Difficult Emotions of Grief 
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How to keep EX-wife away from my husbands funeral service? I AM PAYING FOR IT AND DOING  
MY wonderful husband died recently, his EX-wife wants to come to the funeral...I know that he and his family hates her! What should I say\do to keep …

Lost My Parents 
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Further Bereavement Questions 
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Lost my mother suddenly, who was caring for her mother that has dementia. 
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How does grief affect the body?  
Since my husband passed away last year, I seem to be feeling so much more sick than usual. Will this go away?

How do others cope with early dementia in a husband ? 
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Still numb and worried not grieving or dealing with feelings 
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My mother's death - could more have been done?  
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Lost my mother, Dad has a new woman 
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How do I talk to a relative about their untreatable illness? 
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Where to start healing first ??? 
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When is the right time to take off the wedding ring? 
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More Grief Questions from our Readers 
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Grieving for my husband 
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