If you are thinking about suicide, these are the facts you need to know. By Cheryl Ronzini of the American Foundation for Suicide Prevention
Emotional and mental anguish is all-consuming. You are struggling to get through day-to-day life. Sadness is overwhelming and you just want to be free of the pain. You are thinking of taking your own life and believe family and friends will be better off without you. What's the point of continuing in misery and despair? You can take your own life, pass away quietly and while your loved ones will be sad, they will move on with their own lives and everyone will remember you fondly.
Not necessarily. If you are thinking about suicide, know the real FACTS before you ACT.
Traumatic death is typically painful. Regardless of use of a firearm, overdose or asphyxiation, death is not guaranteed and if it happens, it will likely not be painless. Individuals who attempt suicide often survive but may suffer from lifelong injury, disability and pain. Suicide isn't pretty and for a loved one to find you or have to identify your body at a morgue, this will be the most traumatic, terrible experience of their lives.
The suicide of a loved one or close friend causes tremendous shock and grief for those left behind, asking why. Survivor guilt is very high among those who face a suicide loss, often wondering what they could have done to prevent the death, feeling they may be to blame, constantly wondering why they didn't see the signs or take them seriously, etc.
Parents, siblings, spouses, children, friends, etc. never recover from such a devastating loss and face deep grief for the remainder of their own lives. A traumatic death by suicide is typically discovered by a family member, who lives with that terrible vision forever. The suicide loss of a loved one has been known to contribute to the suicidal ideation for some family members left to grieve. There are families who have suffered multiple losses by suicide.
No. Contemplating suicide is a serious symptom of depression, bipolar disorder, Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder and other treatable mental illnesses. Mental illness is as real as other chronic illnesses such as cancer or multiple sclerosis. If you confide in a therapist or medical professional, you will receive the help you need to work through your suicidal ideations. Medical intervention does not always involve hospitalization - that depends on the severity of the threat (such as an actual attempt) and mental disorder. Suicidal ideation is often treated on an outpatient basis utilizing effective therapy and medication.
Suicide has been described as a permanent solution to a temporary problem. If you reach out to a loved one, counselor or medical professional for help, you have a real opportunity to receive the treatment you need to improve your mental health. Suicidal ideation and depression are treatable conditions and with the appropriate therapy and medical intervention, suicide may likely cease being an option.
Suicidal ideation is brought on by many factors. As previously mentioned, diagnosed or undiagnosed mental illness such as depression or bipolar disorder is often the catalyst for thoughts of suicide. Other reasons - which are typically coupled with mental illness - may be:
Many people all over the world consider suicide and an estimated 2,700 individuals take their lives daily. It is a sobering statistic to which no family wants to contribute.
There are a number of highly effective options for suicide prevention. If you make the call they will do everything they can to help you. The skilled counselors on the other end of the phone will assure you that you are not alone and did the best thing by contacting them. Reaching out is the beginning of the journey to healing and improved mental health.
In the United States, the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline number is 1-800-273-8255. Skilled, trained counselors are available by phone in your area 24 hours a day, 7 days a week.
Boys Town Crisis and Suicide Hotline: 1-800-448-3000 or 1-800-448-1833 (TDD)
Boys Town operators are available 24/7 to provide you with immediate phone assistance and short-term crisis intervention and counseling for parent-child conflicts, marital and family issues, suicide, pregnancy, runaways, physical and sexual abuse. Operators also provide referrals to local community resources.
Suicide & Depression Crisis Line – Covenant House: 1-800-999-9999
The Crisis Text Line provides free emotional support and information to teens in any type of crisis, including feeling suicidal. Teens can text with a trained specialist 24 hours a day. Text “CTL” or “LISTEN” to 741-741. www.crisistextline.org
Reachout.com provides information and support for teens and young adults struggling with mental health issues, including suicide. A forum connects with peers for immediate support and information. www.us.reachout.com
The Society for the Prevention of Teen Suicide has a teen section that includes information to help a teen or a friend who may be having suicidal thoughts. The SPTS features a section for parents, as well. www.sptsusa.org/teens
The Trevor Project provides crisis intervention and suicide prevention services to LGBTQ young people aged 13–24. The Trevor Helpline is a free 24-hour suicide hotline at 1-866-488-7386. TrevorChat is for online crisis chat 6 hours a day at www.thetrevorproject.org/chat.
Type suicide hotline and your country into your search engine and your national helplines, chatlines and organisations will come up straightaway.
Rather than being written by doctors and psychiatrists as many suicide prevention books are, this one is written by someone who has experienced suicidal thoughts herself. She has been through it all, hospitalizations, therapy, drugs, 12 step programs. So she knows what works. This book has many ideas for coping strategies and may just help save a life.