Loss of a friend
Ok, hoping there's enough space here, question's kind of complicated. Basically my Dad, a few years ago moved in with a good friend of his who happened to be a meth addict. This is when my Mom, still currently living there, who eventually moved out, for obvious reasons, and then it was just the 2 of them. They seemed pretty good but he also got my Dad doing a fair bit of hard drugs, and most of the family attempted to intervene. But the 'friend' was a very competent sweet talker and also reminded my Dad of his dead brother (my uncle who died of cancer maybe 7 years ago). Anyway, after a year and half of living together, the friend was diagnosed with terminal lung cancer (shitty coincidences) and ends up dying later that year. Now, also coincidentally I've been back in town and didn't know to what extent a drug addict entirely destroys a house, and my Dad has become almost solitary in his living. Now I think he's stopped with drugs, I think, but he's anti social, ungrateful, and straight up terrible to be around. This was a year and a half ago which is a bit of time, not a lot, but some. And he doesn't talk to anyone about, doesn't read about grief or listen, hasn't seen a grief counselor or psychiatrist. Nothing.
I've gotten most of the house looking a bit cleaner, but getting mixed results in whether that's actually helpful. And I cook a bunch of his food or sometimes bring him out to restaurants to, you know, get him a little social.
However at this point, I'm at a complete loss on what to do. This friend of his was less of a loss for me so I'm definitely better able to cope, but I also have people I can depend on, people who I socialize with and have life. I read and try to understand some of what I can do to help, books and videos and practice yoga just to keep my own mindset somewhat sound. Any suggestions would be helpful. He's always been distant, but this is something else, and as much as I'd like it to not be my problem, it's my Dad, so f**k my life, what to do? What to do?
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