Loss of a brother

by Marie
(London)

I lost my brother in March 2018 this year to cancer. He was just 35 and had a 5 year old son.

I am struggling with the fact that my brother was a healthy 35 year old who visited the gym, ate healthy, never smoked in his life could get so ill. He had a 9 month illness and it was only in January this year that things went from bad to worse and we lost him 6 weeks after being told it was terminal having gone into his bones. It is an evil cruel illness and I will never get over losing my brother in this way. I have another brother and we just feel lost without our middle man in our lives.

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Sep 07, 2018
Grieving the loss of your brother
by: Betty from GriefandSympathy.com

Dear Marie

Thank you for writing to us. We are very sorry to hear about your sad loss. It is especially difficult when young children lose a loving father.

Your brother maintained a healthy life style and he is to be admired for that. However our genes play an enormous role in our lives and our susceptibility to certain diseases. This is not in our control.

It is such a short time since you lost your brother and grief is an emotional roller coaster. He has left you a wonderful legacy in your nephew so do try to be positive for him, talk to him about his daddy, take him for outings.

Focus on the positive outcomes for the boy and this will help to displace these negative emotions you get which can be overwhelming at times.

You were so blessed to have a great relationship with your brother that you miss him so much. This too is something to be positive about. Remember the good times your family had together.

Yes, it is going to be hard at times but you will get through this with the help of your other brother and this little boy. Enjoy your lives for him. Support his son and you will find peace again. It does take time to accept the huge change in your lives.

There is an article on our site written by someone who lost her brother at a similar age. I hope it may help: Grieving for My Brother

Our very best wishes
Betty from GriefandSympathy.com

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