I lost my dear father 25 days ago. Unable to think of life without him.

My father had a normal day, went for a evening walk and then to a restaurant with his friends. He was back home by 10 pm and got ready to bed. My mom was watching TV for some time and checked on my dad who switched off the light and slept. She locked all the main doors and went to the bedroom. It was not even 5 mins since he slept, my mom could hear him gasp for breath. She switched on the light and tried to wake him up but he was unconscious. She called for help and my neighbours helped to get a doctor and booked an ambulance immediately. They gave CPR but he was gone by the time he reached the hospital. They diagnosed as massive heart attack.

He did not have any underlying causes like cholesterol or diabetes. This was a sudden shock to my whole family and friends. How can life be so uncertain and unfair? We didn't get a chance to save him. So sudden that my mom is not able to cope with this pain. He was a jolly person, had lots of friends, loved food and enjoyed every small moment in life. He had nothing to worry about. He was only 66 years old. Life seems gloomy and scary. I am unable to sleep at night. I am very much worried about my mom. She cries a lot everyday. Worried about her health too. Please help

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Apr 28, 2021
Family grief for a loved one
by: Betty from GriefandSympathy

We were very sorry to hear about your sudden loss. It must be a difficult time for you especially as he was so young and appeared so fit. The same thing happened to my husband, but he was so much older - 75 years. However the sudden shock left myself, the family and friends in disbelief for weeks. The shock I felt was some protection.

Having been a nurse for many years and witnessed long illnesses in patients, family, and friends the only comfort I had at first was that he did not suffer. Within 10 minutes of him going to bed he was unconscious when I followed him. He too had had a busy day and we had been out with friends. He had no apparent illness. He had a stroke.

This is a life changing event for all of you and the grieving process can not be rushed. All we can do is take each day at a time and get support from family and friends. Never forget how lucky you were to have had a great husband and father.

Grief is the price we pay for love. One day all the happy memories will return and comfort you all.

Be there to support your mother and join a support group if you need to. Have a look at our pages on losing a parent, and perhaps encourage your mother to read the one on loss of a husband.

Try to continue any work, clubs or church meetings you belonged to. Even if at first you feel as if you are a robot just going through the motions.

I wish I could say that this grief will soon pass but the process does take time. Do accept all the help you can get from friends.

Our very best wishes to you at this very sad chapter of life.

Life is a precious thing whether it be long or short and we never know the answer for ourselves. Do try to be positive each day for you and your mother. She needs you now more than ever.

Betty
GriefandSympathy.com

May 12, 2021
A comment to the loss of you beloved father 25days ago
by: Anonymous

Am really saddened by your loss. I know its hard, me too I lost my father when I was 18 years old , he died in december 31 2020 , till now I still can't believe he left, so pray for him ,visit his grave trust u will be OK,one more thing comfort your mom and be strong he is in a better place


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