How Do I Move On from Grief?

by Juan
(Whittier, CA)

I feel like I'm stuck. How do I shake this feeling like I'm depressed? I want to crawl under a rock and not come out.

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Apr 07, 2017
How to Move On from Grief
by: Betty from Grief and Sympathy

Thank you for writing to us. We are sorry for your loss and want you to know that what you are feeling is the depths of grief. To want to hide away is a natural reaction, one which we have to fight. We have to make an effort to go out, see friends, avoid becoming isolated.

How do we cope when we lose someone we love? We cope because we have no other choice. We cope because our loved ones are memories in our hearts. We live for them as well, to keep their memories alive.

Grief is a tangled pathway, but you will survive and when you reach a point of acceptance you will be changed.

There is a feeling that life can't get any worse. They say that these life challenges make us stronger in the end.

Death is part of life. You will never forget your loved one. Life is never the same, but your life is precious and if you take one day at a time you will cope.

Would you have wanted your loved one to give up on their life if it had been you who had died? They would have wanted you to continue with yours and eventually find comfort for yourself.

Grief takes time. Years to achieve acceptance. Do not expect to recover in months.

Please take advice from a doctor or counsellor if you are depressed. You are not alone in feeling this.

Read some pages on our site on how to cope with your loss and keep busy each day.

Ask for support from family and friends. Go to work, continue with your hobbies. Join a support group or take up something new. There are lots of ideas for activities here.

Only you can do it. You will, for yourself. You will also do it for your loved one. To have loved and lost is better than never have known love at all.

You have started to face up to your loss by asking for help. That is a big step to take.

Feel free to write again and tell us more about how you are feeling and coping. We hope that other readers will also join in and share their thoughts.

Our best wishes

Betty
The Grief and Sympathy Team.



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