Five years of death...coping

by M

I really don’t have a question, just looking for a reason why.? I’ve lost my only sister, my step mother and now my boyfriend of nine years, within the past five years. I feel alone and sad as I miss them greatly! I’m dealing with the loss but focusing on my teenager attending college soon. I wasn’t prepared to be totally alone so soon! Starting over!

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Mar 13, 2019
Dealing with Multiple Losses
by: Betty from GriefandSympathy

Dear M,

Thank you for writing to us. We are so sorry to hear about the loss of so many of your loved ones in such a short space of time. You have faced a huge set of challenges.

Please do not look upon your teenager going to college as a further loss. You are obviously proud of this achievement and it shows the support you have given them despite your difficult years. Going to college is a life change for them and they still need a lot of support, emotional and financial. Knowing you are there for them gives them confidence during this settling in period. You can visit them and they will be back during long vacations. Many come back home when their courses are finished. With texts and mobile phones these days
distance is not such a problem. Close relationships can survive distances.

You owe it to yourself and your beloved teenager to cope with this situation. Writing to us is a good sign that you are already planning for this new chapter in your life.

It is now time to think of yourself and write your bucket list. We spend our lives helping family and friends, also working to pay bills. Rarely do we get a chance to ask ourselves,"What do I want to do?"

You are at a crossroads in your life full of opportunities. Do a degree, work for charity, take up a sport, only you know where your interests lie.

We never forget those we have lost, but we can make the best of the time we have left, do it for them for your beloved teen and mostly for yourself.

You have proved you can do it by coping with the many challenges you have faced already.

There are many relevant pages on our site that may help.

Our very best wishes.


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