Finding it hard to enjoy my achievements

by Charlotte

My Dad passed away unexpectedly just under two months ago. I live in a different country, and with the pandemic I hadn't seen him in six months. We didn't speak often, as we've always been quiet types, but we were really close. He gave me the best advice and the best hugs. He was always so proud of all my achievements, no matter how small, and I loved sharing them with him.

Now I'm finding it hard to enjoy most of what I'm doing, and the small achievements I would usually tell him about seem empty. I'm trying to convince myself that he would still be so proud of me, and that I should find joy in what I'm doing because that's what he would want, but it's hard not being able to share this with him.

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Oct 19, 2020
Loss of Your Father in Times of Covid 19
by: Betty from GriefandSympathy

Dear Charlotte

We are sorry to hear about the loss of your Father. It is always a shock, especially when unexpected, and you are quite possibly still in a state of shock, which can make it difficult to access your emotions, such as joy or pride in your achievements.

It is a sad thing that due to the pandemic you had not seen him for so long, but I'm quite sure that he would still be proud of all your achievements.

This lack of being able to share things with your loved one is a major part of grief. Continue to live your life saying to yourself "I am doing this for you Daddy". It does help in the early stages of grief. Two months is such a short time and you are only beginning to come to terms with this huge loss in your life.

Your loss has come at one of the worst times with social isolating, limited travel possibilities and is adding to everyone feeling anxious. Writing to us and reaching out for support is a good start. Chatting online with friends can help, as can online grief support groups.

You will get through this difficult time and eventually be positive about the great relationship you had with your father. He was proud of your achievements and your abilities. Always remember that when you are feeling low and learn to be proud of yourself.

Grief takes time. We can't rush it and two months is still in the early stages.

My very best wishes for your future.

Betty from Grief and Sympathy.

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