Anger over betrayal of husband's friend, when I needed him most. . . .

by Jennifer
(Atlanta, Ga.)

My husband of 37 years was to be discharged on Wednesday and passed Sunday night at the hospital. A friend of his and his wife kept trying to impose themselves on me and the funeral. I met the couple twice and found the wife to be manic and immature. The husband Lee, related to my husband, so I played the good sport. Lee, is an engineer and reserved but seemed intelligent. My husband and Lee talked endlessly about the stock and politics. Lots of emails and long calls for almost 2 years.

When my husband passed I needed help, especially with stocks and issues with the bank. I asked Lee and after a few, "gee, we all miss your husband" emails he stopped responding. I was left to flounder and took bad advice from a broker and lost a great deal of money. I know if Lee had at least given me his opinion or guided me to a solid resource, it would have made a world of difference. A few minutes of his time after all the time my husband had given Lee and his proclaiming how he "loved" my husband.

I struggled with finances, injury from a fall, depression, anxiety, lost passwords, bad mistakes and people - even my pastor - trying to run scams on me. It took me over 3 years to get on solid ground and think straight.

I started to clear out my husband's computer files and was shocked when I found all the old emails from Lee to him discussing stock, selling options, watching 34 different companies and his portfolio. It seem Lee got twice weekly help from my husband for almost 2 years and thanked him for his input and great results. This from a man who emailed me that he it "too much a novice to offer any advice" and suggested I get a BOOK!!

My question, I feel like making a copy of some of these old emails and sending them in a Christmas card to Lee. I have this need to let Lee know I now know better and do not buy his story. I feel he was almost abusive with my husband, trying to contact him for ADVICE WHILE MY HUSBAND WAS IN ICU ward!! Lee even sent his wife to the hospital to try and get in his room. She tried to pass herself off as his relative - just so she could get an answer about a stock!!

What I am really stunned and angry by finding this new information - I just got better these last 3 months about how I was treated since my husband passed. I don't want to pent up any more anger in me.

I want to know how to get over yet another betrayal, I feel the need to contact Lee or should I just let "sleeping dogs lay". I want nothing from him, it is my own "gotcha" moment. I want Lee to know that he has been found out. You have to be a real low life to treat a widow of a "friend" the way he treated me.

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